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Thursday, June 24, 2010

A new kind of career mom

Well, Friday brought more than just a post...
I was Tickled Pink at 504 Main and Mama Hen sent me not one, but two awards!

I’m Tickled Pink at 504 Main

Holly, thanks so much for featuring my blog and post! I'm flattered!


I heart awards!
I love to give them and I love to get them! I'm a sucker for recognition that way.
I want to thank Mama's Little Chick for thinking of me for these.
 She's a wonderful mommy and blogger, and I really am flattered! Thanks Mama Hen!

The first award is Your Going Places Baby Award!

The rules of this award is to tell where you see yourself in ten years and then pass it along.
In ten years I see myself on a date!
By then my oldest will be in college and my youngest will be fifteen.
I'm thinking hubs and I can manage a dinner and some drinks by then.
On a more serious note.
Perhaps I will be continuing my college education.
I want to focus on the boys now, but by then maybe that has a place.
I'm gonna be one of those old ladies in college...Whatever!

I pass this award on to Adriana at Just by Living.
Her blog brought me to tears yesterday, and I loved her writing.

Mama Hen also sent me the Versatile Blogger Award!

With this award I am supposed to tell 7 random things about myself and pass it on.

1. I used to smoke a long long long time ago...gross!
2. I'm named after my grandma.
3. The "shoebox" I'm always referring to is my house.
4. I'm addicted to the Twilight books.
5. I LOVE Beth Moore Bible Studies!
6. I'm the youngest of a family of five children
7. I love sour patch kids...mmmm!

I'm passing this award onto Mindy at The Inquistive Mom.
She's got a great site, and I like her take on blogging!

Thanks again Mama Hen! You are so sweet to me!

You're still going to read my post, right?
hee hee :)
No, really though...

I was inspired by a blog I read this morning. Classy Career Girl. She wrote a post about asking your boss for a vacation, and had a list of good reasons to use your vacation time. I took comfort in the fact that I could still relate to the working girl.

It’s been a few years that I’ve been a SAHM, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Each day I spent in the career world was spent missing my kids and praying for the job I have now.

Before I made the move to stay home with the boys I was a title agent. I managed a small office and spent my days handling real estate closings, dealing with clients, homeowners, builders, blah, blah, blah.

Although I don’t miss this job AT ALL, I do miss the purpose of it. I had clear direction every morning. There were needs I filled within the company; I had confidence (most days) to take the bull by the horns. I was great with people, and customers, and I had a sense of pride in the job I did. I learned quite a bit about business while working for this company, and so much of it stuck with me.

The post I read got me thinking about how I manage my home.

I don’t always look at it from a business stand point, but I should.

1. Stop micro managing. Quit trying to be in control of every little thing that happens around here. Give up some responsibility to the kids to take care of the things they are big enough to handle. Give them age appropriate chores and be consistent. Give them clear expectations, and don’t sweat it, if the job isn’t done exactly the way I would have done it! The point is to give the kids a sense of purpose, and build their confidence. Not that they do the job perfectly! Chores around here usually seem like more work for me. So I rarely stick to a program. That's because I'm a pain to work for!!

2. Schedule appointments with cushions. When I would schedule closings I would always allow myself time to deal with an unexpected problem, or difficult customer in between appointments. However, when I schedule things around here they are always back to back if not on top of each other. Use outlook to get organized or some other kind of daily planner. Or better yet, make sure there are days we don't leave the house at all.

3. Delegate. Need I say more? As the manager of this house I need to make sure things get done, but I don’t have to be the one to do them all. This goes back to getting the kids involved. Perhaps hiring that landscaper hubs has been begging for? We have a dishwasher. My oldest can load it. We own a washer and dryer. I need to teach the kids how to ues it. You get the idea. I tend to do everything! But I'm realizing that's my fault. Theboys enjoy helping me when I actually let them!

4. Encourage your staff. Give your kids props for all the help they are. Thank hubs for working so hard. A simple thank you goes a long way, and quite frankly I don’t say enough.

5. Take a lunch and a couple 15 minute breaks. What’s that? When I worked I got a lunch break. Most days here I forget to eat lunch, and end up munching on junk all day or gorging around 3:00 or 4:00. No wonder I’ve put on some weight since I’ve been home. 15 minutes would go a long way here if I just took it! Can you imagine how good it would feel to just take 15 minutes to regroup?! Go back in your bedroom. Pray, read a magazine. Just sit with a cup of tea. 15 minutes isn’t going to stop your house from being orderly. This might help my mommy ADD! Everyone needs a break. Schedule a specific time each day to take your 15. Perhaps late morning and again before hubs gets home. Doesn't this sound heavenly?!

6. Keep reasonable office hours. My office opened at 8:30 and closed at 5:00. Due to the nature of the business, we extended those hours most days, but that doesn’t have to happen here! So what does opening at 8:30 and closing at 5:00 look like? Get up and get ready for my day before the “doors open”. Be ready for my clients family! Have all housework done by 5:00. Since I’m home, and I’m the boss, why not stop housework earlier, and plan to play with the kids before hubs gets home. Then maybe they won’t be desperate for his attention right as he walks through the door. Perhaps they would be calmer upon his arrival if I gave them some one on one later in the day? Sometimes you just have to stop! It’s all going to be there tomorrow anyway. That’s how I felt about the pile of files on my desk. No matter how long I stayed at the office, they were there when I came in the next morning. The laundry is my file that won’t go away!
 It. is. my. worst. customer.

7. Be a pleasure to work for. Nobody wants a negative boss. Stop complaining. Smile. Do something unexpected to show your appreciation for your employees family. Baking always works around here. :)

8. Take a vacation!! Treat yourself evey once in awhile. I tend to wait for hubs to recognize my "work". Bring me flowers, and a gift certificate for a pedi. THIS NEVER HAPPENS!! Hubs is wonderful, don't get me wrong. But he's not a romantic, and if I wait for him to treat me I will never get my treat! So, don't be scared. Schedule your own pedi, plan a day to go the beach or park alone and sit. Just make time for you. Some things cost money. Spa treatments and pedis are not exactly something I'm running out and getting. Money is tight, and I try to be frugal. But I have something I like to call "mommy money". I sell stuff on ebay we no longer use, or you could have a garage sale. Get the kids involved and help them earn some extra cash. Put some of those funds towards your "mommy money". Use it for something you like.

I'm no longer a "career mom", but I'm making a career out of being one!

Thank you Lord, for this job! I feel so blessed to have it!




At June 24, 2010 at 11:37 PM , Blogger Karen Mortensen said...

Congrts on your awards. Cool.

At June 25, 2010 at 9:26 AM , Blogger Mindy said...

Hey! Thanks so much for thinking of me and passing this along. I really appreciate your kind words. :0) By the way, I LOVE sour patch kids too and I'm the youngest of four kids.

At June 25, 2010 at 9:29 AM , Blogger Jessica said...

Thanks for the early morning pep talk! Glad to know there are other moms our there working hard at home for their families! (I'm a Twi-Hard too!!)

At June 25, 2010 at 11:11 AM , Blogger Mama Hen said...

You deserve your awards Adrienne! Sorry I did not stop by yesterday, but I have no power in my house! I still have none. Ugh! I love this list! I try to delegate work, but somehow I always end up doing everything! O mother's work is never done! Have a great Friday! :)

Mama Hen

At June 26, 2010 at 11:25 AM , Anonymous Adrienne said...

Congrats on being featured. I love Holly's blog.

I wish more moms would follow #1. You're not doing any favors by doing everything.

I met men who grew up with moms that did everything for them and they expect me to continue the!

Love meeting people with the same name. It's a rare occurrence.

Thanks for the visit.

At June 26, 2010 at 11:52 AM , Blogger Mama Hen said...

Hey Adrienne! You deserve those awards! That is great that you don't smoke any more. I have never smoked, but I am sure it was hard to stop, because I am having a tough time giving up sweets! I hope you will go on that date in ten years. Maybe even sooner. I also hope that you go back to school! You go girl! Have a great day my bloggy pal!

Mama Hen

At June 26, 2010 at 12:15 PM , Blogger Adrienne said...

@ Mama Hen, I can't beleive I smoked! So stupid! It's just what you did when you worked in a restauraunt, I guess. It wasn't hard to stop, though. I guess I never really "enjoyed" it. Plus, my oldest has asthma and allergies and that was a real quick motivator 11 years ago! Now sweets, that's another story!

At June 26, 2010 at 12:17 PM , Blogger Adrienne said...

@ Adrienne, I love meeting Adriennes! I have met more in the past few weeks than I have all 32 years IRL. LOL :)

At June 26, 2010 at 9:33 PM , Blogger ~The One Who Said It said...

OMG!!!! And I dn't use that lightly, I am blown away by your bible stories. As a woman that looks to God for all I too felt the same way when I read Exodus. Isn't God awesome that no matter how different His children are, His is word is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow!!! I have truly been blessed by what I read, this is your ministry, God Bless you! Happy Saturday Sister!

At June 27, 2010 at 12:44 AM , Anonymous Licia said...

I love your post. I feel that "stay" at home moms don't do much "staying put" as the label implies. They shoud be called "work" at home moms. It's a 24-hour a day, 7-days per week job!
Congratulations on your awards.

At June 29, 2010 at 12:16 AM , Blogger classycareergirl said...

I love this! I am so glad that my post inspired you! I am not a mom yet but someday when I am, I will definitely refer back to this advice of handling my home from a business standpoint. You related it so well. I am looking forward to reading more of your blog posts. Thanks again for the link love, it made my day!:)

At June 30, 2010 at 3:30 PM , Anonymous hope said...

congrats on your awards...
i have to say number 1 and 6 are hardest for me...

i have to do it and i own my business so sometimes i bring my work home... i know i shouldn't...but cant help it...

At June 30, 2010 at 10:01 PM , Blogger Jacque said...

Thanks for recommending this post for me - I needed that! :) I'm your 50th follower on GFC! Woo Hoo! I'm like dreaming of the day I get to 100 - won't that be cool? lol
Anyways - I have read a couple of your posts - love your writing. Definitely looking forward to reading more. Nice to *meet* you.

At September 3, 2010 at 9:37 PM , Blogger memoir of a missus said...

I can totally relate to how you approach being a SAHM in a business-like fashion. I am the same. I do try to "leave work" by 5pm but most days I have to do overtime work until 9pm. Love reading your stories and thoughts. Happy blogging!


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