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Tuesday, August 3, 2010

"Man, he knows how to push my buttons!"

I find myself saying this a lot lately. Can you guess who's pushing my buttons?

My 11 year old! My sweet, handsome, adorable, loving 11 year old son!

I can't believe I've reached a point in my parenting where I am constantly butting heads with my baby. I'm finding myself frustrated, annoyed, short on patience, and easily annoyed at almost everything this poor kid does.

Please tell me there's hope for me him.

I love this kid with everything I've got, but it's like we clash lately. He thinks the world is against him, and nobody understands him. I think he just needs to follow some simple instructions (i.e pick his clothes up off the bathroom floor, and clean up the toothpaste in the sink) and his life will be a lot easier.

I've heard the term 'Tween' for years. I never thought I would have one. I always thought 'tween' was a term used by adults to rush their not-quite-teenagers into being teenagers. I didn't think it was a valid term that held any regard to an actual stage of life other than one rushed by parents in a society where kids are growing up too fast.

Well, I am wrong. I think I have a 'tween'.

I decided to look this term up and sure's a real word.
According to the American Heritage Dictionary a tween is a child between middle childhood and adolescence, usually between 8 and 12 years old. ETYMOLOGY: Blend of teen, and between.

Well, my son is 11. So I guess that's what's wrong with him. He's almost a teenager. (Sigh)

I am scared to death with the idea that I am a mother to an 'almost teenager'. I already told you I'm no good at being a big kids' mom.  I am still trying to figure myself out most days. How in the world can I help my 'tween' find his comfortable place in this world?

I'm so clueless as to how to do this whole parent-of-teen thing that I googled it.

I found this link According to this article it's no wonder he's a mess!

I've also begun reading And Then I Had Teenagers by Susan Alexander Yates. I've heard from some acquaintances this is a good book for finding encouragement in God's word in reference to parenting this age.

If you're cracking up at my cluelessness, it's OK. I am too.

I've really got to find a way to relate to this kid. Time is running out. I'll be devastated if he grows up to hate me, I've got to get it together!

Two things I know for certain:
God will equip me for this task. (Hebrews 3:21)
I can do all things through Him. (Philippians 4:13)



At August 3, 2010 at 9:53 AM , Blogger Shell said...

My stomach was turning as I was reading this, dreading the day that I have a tween. My 5 year old and I already butt heads...because he is sooo much like me.

Good luck!

At August 3, 2010 at 10:41 AM , Blogger An Imperfect Momma said...

I fear that all the time and wonder how anyone can do it. Especially w Monkey Man starting to show his personality now - hard headed like his mama. I pray you get through this smoothly!

At August 3, 2010 at 3:07 PM , Blogger Ma What's 4 dinner said...

Oh god, I won't be able to take it when my kids get here. And as there are 3 of them all produced within 3 years and change they'll all be tweens at the same time. AHHH!!!! Thanks for the info though. I'm going to go bookmark those books and sites now. :)

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma What's For Dinner

At August 3, 2010 at 3:35 PM , Blogger Jessica said...

I'm in the same boat at you and Shell with my guy who will be 8 this month. We are so much alike we butt heads a lot.

But I'm sure you've read my crazy "why me" posts already.

Prayer, kindness, and consistency. That is my mantra these days.

We have to leave the rest to God.

At August 3, 2010 at 3:45 PM , Blogger Karen Mortensen said...

All though I can't relate or have any real advice, you seem to be doing well. I think asking for help from others and praying about it, you have the bases covered. I guess you just need to remain patient and calm as he works through this stage in his life. All the best.

At August 3, 2010 at 9:10 PM , Blogger Di said...

It gets better. My parents and I started getting along again around the time I turned 22 or so! Good luck and just hang on for the ride!

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