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Monday, September 20, 2010

Friends You Love-A Little Bit of Life


It's the last Monday to join Friends You Love in their September blog hop.

This month is about building friendships and making our existing friendships stronger...

We challenge you to dig into your "followers" list and find a follower you don't know well (someone who doesn't comment regularly) and reach out to them and ask them to do a guest post on YOUR blog. Link up with your guest post and have your new friend (guest poster) link up as well!

After reading this post last week from Diana at A Little Bit of Life, I couldn't think of anyone else I'd rather ask to come over for a visit! This post isn't the first time I've stopped by her blog, and I each time I have her posts always keep me reading. They're sweet and genuine. Diana is definitely I friend I love.

I love her post today about a fading friendship that remains unchanged in her heart.
If you've never stopped by her place, it's a must today!

Thank you to Adrienne for asking me to guest post! It’s my first time so go easy on me girls!

I figured since this blog hop is “Friends You Love”, I would write about the friendship and how it changes over time.

I have a pretty unique story as to how a friendship came about with one of my best friends. When I was 13 years old I decided to make the trek from Florida to Woodward, Pennsylvania to attend gymnastics camp. Two of my teammates were also going and I was pretty excited to spend two weeks doing nothing but gymnastics! So I went through registration and started to make the long trek - with ALL MY STUFF – across the camp, over 18,000 hills (seriously – who knew PA was so hilly?) to the farthest and last cabin on the grounds - 8B. I am not kidding you when I say that the instant I opened the door this curly haired bundle of energy bounced down from one of the bunks and landed not two feet from my face.

“Hey, I’m Jen!”

And that folks is how I met my best friend. From that moment on we were inseparable. We tested into the same group so we had classes together all morning. Her coach was there and he let me and my teammates train with her group in the afternoons. We bought matching leotards, giggled about boys, and did a lip sync in front of the whole camp to “I’m a Little Teapot.” After a week you couldn’t pry us apart but alas it was time for Jen to return to Ohio and I had another week at camp. That didn’t put a damper on our friendship though.

I have binders full of letters from 1996 through about 2000 when we switched to emailing than myspace and facebook. We were both grounded on several occasions due to the size of the long distance phone bills. We visited each other whenever possible and went through some growing pains along the way. Parents, boys, school, drama we covered it all and never judged the other along the way. Our friendship was probably stronger because we didn’t spend every waking minute together so we couldn’t get sick of each other. I flew to Ohio for Jen’s high school graduation and she was there to see me graduate from college.

Things have changed over the past few years though. See up until I got married we were on the same path and we could commiserate. There was the going out, dating, etc. Then I went and upset the balance by settling down. Our lives no longer matched up and it became harder to find a common ground. Our phone calls got fewer and farther in between. I stopped seeing comments pop up on my Facebook wall. I’m not going to lie – it hurt at first. But I got it and I couldn’t be mad at her. She hadn’t changed – I had. I went through that big leap that puts you a different category. Then I threw it further out of whack – we bought a house, put down “roots”, and now we’re expecting a baby. All while she was still figuring where she wanted to go and if it was time to spread her wings.

I tried reaching out initially to hold on to what we had but never really got a response so I figured – back off – give her space. So I have. A note or text here and there just so she knows I’m thinking about her and yes I’m still here. Whether I’m married or a mom it won’t change how I feel about that crazy girl I met when I was 13. I will always be just a phone call away no matter what. I know that when she is ready I’ll get that call and we will talk for hours as if nothing happened. That’s just the way these friendships work. And when it comes time for her to get married, buy a house and make babies – I’ll be there with advice along the way and a sympathetic shoulder. Just like I always have been. At some point and time our paths will meet again and the funny thing about friendship is that it’s not about what happened in between – it’s about the here and now. I never expected us to always be those giggling teenagers. It is only natural that there are times when our lives aren’t running parallel and we have to grow apart in order to fins the path we are going down. Then we have that moment at the end of it where we think – “Man, I can’t wait to call her and tell her all about this!” So Jen, whenever that time comes – I’m ready. I hope you are too because come mid January or early February you can expect a call with the biggest, sweetest news I’ve ever had to share and I couldn’t think of anyone better to share it with then you!



At September 20, 2010 at 8:32 AM , Blogger Di said...

Aww - quit talking so sweetly about me. You'll ruin my tough girl facade! :) Thank you - you made my day!

At September 20, 2010 at 10:12 AM , Blogger Sara said...

This was so sweet. Di is awesome, and the fact that she totally understands what's going on, and is just waiting for the problem to smooth over is amazing to me. So many people would give up and write it off. Great post!!

At September 20, 2010 at 11:44 AM , Blogger cooperl788 said...

Great guest post! I love that she's so understanding of her friend - the sign of one who is a loyal and good person.

At September 20, 2010 at 12:33 PM , Blogger Ma What's 4 dinner said...

Oh, that was great....friends are so important in life!

Lots of yummy love,
Alex aka Ma What's for Dinner

At September 20, 2010 at 7:18 PM , Blogger Shell said...

I love Di! :)

And hope that she and her friend can find common ground again.


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