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Tuesday, January 11, 2011

church shopping

We got married in October of 2003. On December 9, 2004 my youngest son was born. The Lord had blessed me with a wonderful husband, another healthy child, and life was good. But I knew something was missing.

I had this desire to get the kids in church. After all they really needed "character building skills" and "values".  After all, you got theses things at church.
*sarcasm, sarcasm*
I had NO idea what I needed!

Co-parenting with God was a foreign concept to me. My oldest son had been enrolled in a christian private school for preschool, but now that he was in public kindergarten he wasn't getting any Bible lessons. ...ahem...Learning about the Bible was something you did on Sundays, so we'd have to find a church to do that. ...cringing at my thought process of the past...

Well, hubs was not on board for church shopping. Could you blame him? Oh, well. So, the boys and I went out to see what the world had to offer us on a Sunday morning.

Sometimes my oldest and I would go alone, because I didn't want to drop the baby at any old nursery. No way! I would wait until I found somewhere I loved. Somewhere I was really comfortable before taking that step. So hubs would stay with the baby, and my sweet 6 year old and I would go church shopping.

Church shopping...what an exhausting process!

We found several places. Sat through many sermons that didn't offer anything special. Some boring, some all hell fire and brimstone. I felt like a teenager again. I felt like a stranger. an outsider. I also couldn't help but feel like a single mom too, because no one knew me, or why I was there with a 6 year old alone. He would often sit with me, because I wasn't about to drop him off with strangers either. After awhile of no luck near by, we decided to try a friend's church that was a longer drive. Not a fan, but at least there would be friendly faces there.

That lasted a little while. Long enough for me to feel comfy about bringing the baby to the nursery. I even volunteered a few times to serve in the nursery. It was a nice church. Not too traditional. Both young and old. The sermons weren't boring. The music was nice. But something was off. After just a few short months, I started to see gossip, and it touched my friend and her family. It was awful, and I was totally turned off!

We never went back.

Soon after that, I was discouraged. I didn't want to drive a long way, and it seemed like there wasn't anything special about any of the churches in our area.

Then one day, I got a phone call from my SIL. She mentioned that her friend, who lives near me, found a church she LOVED! It was in the building stages and set to open soon. They were currently meeting at the local middle school, but once it was built they would be less than a mile form our home. She had great things to say about it, and I decided to try it. We'd give it another go. Sigh...

It was Easter Sunday 2006.

Little did I know, through the love of God, this church would change my life, and the life of my family forever.

We've been there ever since.


To read more about my marriage and journey through a spiritual mismatch, click on the label below titled unequally yoked marriage.



At January 11, 2011 at 9:35 AM , Blogger Sara said...

There is nothing more discouraging than "Church Shopping". I remembered the exact moment we found our church- or rather, God led us to it- I literally cried during worship, knowing we were home....

At January 11, 2011 at 11:46 AM , Blogger Shell said...

Glad you found the right church. It does make a big difference.

At January 11, 2011 at 6:58 PM , Blogger Katina said...

So glad you found the right place for you. It makes all the difference! Check my blog tomorrow--I have an award for you. Don;t feel obligated to participate I just wanted you to know that I think you are great!

At January 12, 2011 at 3:46 PM , Blogger Craig said...

Wow – you could write a book on this adventure. And so glad you found your church family – sounds like family.

Thank you much for this – and to you and yours I really do pray blessings today.

At January 12, 2011 at 8:49 PM , Blogger Braley Mama said...

Wow ,God is so good! Just dropping by for the first time. Katina gave us both awards so i was checking out the other cool chicks she likes. We just moved to TX and have been church shopping, and you are right it is sooooo tiring. But PTL we think we found one! At least one my husband and I both are happy with:O)
I am going to start reading u because I am praying about whether to homeschool or not. Have a great day!

At January 14, 2011 at 7:09 PM , Blogger Mindy said...

I have actually never been church shopping, but have read many similar experiences. I'm glad you found a place to meet you and your family's needs. Thankfully for our family, we have had our needs met whenever we've moved by attending churches in the faith my husband and I grew up in. It has been such a blessing and testimony builder in our lives.


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