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Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Is that for a girl or boy?

"Is that for a girl or boy?"

This is what we hear every single time we pull through McDonald's. You know the drill. They have two kinds of toys. One is for a girl and one is for a boy. Here's the thing. Quite often the toys could be interchangeable, and my boy wants the "girl" toy. So I'm stuck saying "girl" at the drive though. It's annoying!

Why can't they just say, "Do you want a Littlest Pet Shop or a Hot Wheel?" Or "Would you like a Beanie Babie or a Superman with your Happy Meal?"

Why do kids have to be defined all the time? Why isn't it ok for my son to play with whatever toy he wants?

Yeah, I know. Littlest Pet Shop is typically a "girl" toy. It's on the "pink" isle at Target. I know. I know. But if my son wants to play with those cute little animals, then so what!

Here's some facts about my son, who couldn't be more "boy"!

*He loves Hot Wheels, dinosaurs, and monsters.
*He likes to get dirty in the backyard.
*He loves to play video games.
*He plays T-ball.
*He runs with the best of 'em at P.E.

Here's some more facts...

*His favorite colors are pink and purple.
*He has a purple hoodie he loves to wear in the winter.
*He actually owns a pair of purple flip flops, and sports them like it's nobody's business!
*He plays T-ball with a hot pink bat.
*He has a Princess Peach cover for his DSi-it's pink!
*He loves animals-no matter what package they come in! Webkinz, Littlest Pet Shop, Beanie Babies, you name it!

Do these things make him girly? Absolutely not! When we bought those purple flip flops, I tried to steer him away from them. I actually said, "Honey, those are not really a boy color." He replied matter-of-factly, "Mom, I DO NOT care what other people think!"

He's six. He has this natural comfort in his own skin that I admire and love. He's like the happiest kid on the planet!

He really meant it to. He really could care less if someone says something about his stuff. We have a  friend. He's a cop, macho, sort of redneck-ish. Great friend we love dearly, but he would never let his son have the kind of pink and purple freedom we have allowed.

He came by the other day. Deputy uniform and all. He noticed my son's pink DSi cover with a blaring image of Princess Peach on it. He said, "Who's game is this?" his tone was real...You have two boys. What in the heck do you have this in your house for?

My son spoke up boldly professing his ownership, "It's mine! That's my favorite Mario character!" His facial expression was all, "Duh! Princess Peach is awesome!"

My husband patted him on the back with a smile and said, "I love you, son."

 Well, then.

We'll take the "girl" toy, darn it!


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39 Comments:

At March 22, 2011 at 7:37 AM , Blogger Janet Rose said...

My son's favorite color is pink, too...has been since forever. He also loves LPS toys...many a day I have stood in the "girl" aisle looking at them with him. We have asked for the girl toy before, too, because, honestly he thought the "boy toy" was disgusting. I totally agreed.
Love him and his pink things!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 8:07 AM , Blogger chocoholic said...

The "boy" and "girl" designation of toys and colors has bothered me for years. I actaully had a girl I was watching only color with the girl coloros of a pack of crayons. When I asked her why, she said "I can't use those. They're boy colors."

 
At March 22, 2011 at 8:18 AM , Blogger Jessica said...

Oh my gosh I love this post. My son is 3.5 and he loves all of his sister's stuff. Yesterday he was sporting her Snow White outfit and his tool belt and he is a total boy too. I love that our kids can be who they want to be.

 
At March 22, 2011 at 8:22 AM , Blogger Katina said...

Such a cute little boy and confident in himself! I love that!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 8:38 AM , Blogger Tina @ Life Without Pink said...

So funny my son's favorite color for along time was pink. I remember buying him a little baby doll that he cried for and my hubby wasn't happy. My thoughts were he is just a child, who cares if he wants to play with dolls or with his kitchen set. This will teach them to be very confident in who they are :)

 
At March 22, 2011 at 8:55 AM , Blogger MaryAnne said...

My son often wants the "girl" toys, too - and sometimes my daughter wants the "boy" toys! I always think it's funny when parents get worried over their son playing with a baby doll, kitchen, or other "girl" toy - presumably they do expect their sons to grow up and be able to cook and care for their children?

 
At March 22, 2011 at 10:18 AM , Blogger Julie said...

I love his confidence and I hope he carries that on forever!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 10:47 AM , Blogger Sara said...

Good for him!!And you and your husband. So many parents wouldn't let him express himself and have favorites of his choosing!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 10:55 AM , Blogger Kay said...

For a child to be comfortable in their own skin shows great parenting skills on your part and your husbands too! Way to go Mom! My little girl loves playing with cars, trains and hot wheels!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 11:09 AM , Blogger Di said...

That is awesome. My youngest nephew has two older sisters and he would always play dressup, littlest pet shop, etc with them too.

 
At March 22, 2011 at 11:55 AM , Blogger Katertot said...

My daughter loves the boy toys as well as the girl toys. My son prefers the boy ones from McD's, but his favorite color is purple. When we were going over who he wanted to invite to his bday party, he insisted on invited the girls in his class also.

I love that the boy/girl boundaries don't have to be so cut and dry when they're younger!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 2:16 PM , Blogger Impulsive Addict said...

Let him be himself. I completely agree. What a little sweetie! This doesn't change or define him (in my opinion). I love that you let him make his own choices!
Good for you!!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 4:38 PM , Blogger Diane said...

Both mine are all boy too but my youngest had a Dora the Explorer birthday cake one year,sometimes wears my shoes around the house asks to paint his nails every time he sees me with the nail polish.

My oldest, on the other hand, is more than your cop friend!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 4:39 PM , Blogger Diane said...

meant to say more LIKE your cop friend. oops!

 
At March 22, 2011 at 5:28 PM , Blogger TerriG said...

I agree with your son, Princess Peach is awesome. She has great driving skills on Mario. Who wouldn't want the best?

BTW, I sure hope get on the crew, your blog is excellent.

 
At April 4, 2011 at 1:14 AM , Blogger LaVonne @ Long Wait said...

I hate that too. My own Princess loves "boy" toys. She loves forts, cars, wrestling and trucks. She also loves purple, pink, skirts, dancing, Dora, and nail polish. I have having to label things for girls or boys. :)

Visiting you from the SITS blog. Stop by and say hi any time you get the chance. I love having new visitors and comments :)

http://longwaitforisabella.blogspot.com

 
At April 4, 2011 at 1:15 AM , Blogger heather_artiste said...

This has always made me so mad. For a brief while, I wasn't asked this when I got a happy meal (mind you, they were for myself LOL). Then it all started again. Why is it so hard to simply ask, would you like a hot wheel or strawberry shortcake? Girls can like cars and boys can like dolls.

 
At April 4, 2011 at 3:29 AM , Blogger CK said...

Oh my goodness, I loooooove this post! Your son sounds endearing and I am so happy to hear him speak up for what he loves!
-CK

 
At April 4, 2011 at 4:49 AM , Blogger Emma Major said...

you are doing such a fab job allowing him to have what he knows he wants. I'm so glad that all McD toys here are unisex because R sometimes loves girls things, sometimes it's all cars and dinosaurs.

 
At April 4, 2011 at 9:15 AM , Blogger Angie said...

Happy SITS day!

My nephews LOVE playing with dolls and I think it's adorable. :)

 
At April 4, 2011 at 9:27 AM , Blogger ... said...

I think it is AWESOME that you let your boys be who they are. I agree, it is so unhealthy to always try to put kids into little boxes based on what society thinks their gender should like or want. I commend you for letting your son make his own decisions about things like this! xo

 
At April 4, 2011 at 9:43 AM , Blogger Marie said...

I hope his attitude never changes, about what others think. That is awesome how you are raising him. :)

 
At April 4, 2011 at 10:15 AM , Blogger Janice said...

I homeschool my son. I laughed at your post about this! My son loves animals, even stuffed ones that might be considered for a girl! I'm now a follower of this blog! I found you on The Sits Girls. Keep the great posts coming!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 10:33 AM , Anonymous Janet White said...

Wow, did that open my eyes. I have an 11 year old daughter who could care less about what she wears as long as it is comfortable. That has bothered me since the moment I lost control of putting her in the cute little girl clothes and bows. (Not that she ever really kept the boys in her hair for long). Now I am forever trying to get her to care that her elastic waist pants are 2 inches too short or her pink shirt and red shorts really don't go together. She would rather die before she wears a bow or skirt. She just refuses to be a girly girl. I applaud your ability to "let it go". Kudos to you!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 10:45 AM , Blogger Shell said...

First of all- YAY for your SITS day! :)

And I'm glad you chose to feature this post b/c I missed it last week! My boys often want the "girl" toy...not too much of a problem if we use the drive thru, but wow, do I get looks when we go in and I ask. It's silly!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 11:10 AM , Anonymous yul said...

he's so cute ~

you're right..it really doesn't matter with the "character" or the "color"

love it when he said he doesn't care what other people says..

 
At April 4, 2011 at 11:17 AM , Anonymous Christine said...

He's adorable! When my kids were smaller I used to ignore their question and say, Two hot wheels, please... or two princesses... whatever was appropriate.

 
At April 4, 2011 at 11:19 AM , Blogger Maggie S. said...

Happy SITS day. We homeschool, too. My twin daughters have always played with what they thought was fun without regard for a wholesale gender distinction. They choose girly stuff for themselves, but play guns, swords, helmets, tree climbing stuff... with the whole crowd, if that is what is on at friends homes. Our boy on the other hand has very distinct ideas about what is a girl thing. He won't have it. Food for thought.

 
At April 4, 2011 at 12:33 PM , Blogger Kristy said...

My boy is very BOY too, but he loves pink and purple and he sees commercials on TV and says, "Mommy, I want some girl stuff." It was the little animal things. He has some of them already. Girl stuff - whatever! :)

 
At April 4, 2011 at 1:44 PM , Blogger Grams said...

Good for you! More moms should raise boys who are comfortable with themselves and what they want. My son liked dolls. A day care worker told me not to worry about it because boys need to learn to be daddies just like girls need to learn to be mommies. Wise advice.

 
At April 4, 2011 at 2:03 PM , Blogger Lindsay said...

Awww...I love your sons spirit!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 2:24 PM , Blogger Jenna said...

stopping by from sits! Love this post! Girls will love him later in life if he keeps that sweet side! thanks for sharing!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 6:51 PM , Anonymous Ado said...

Good for you for "going to bat" for your son's masculine AND feminine sides! Isn't it amazing how opinionated everybody is about the colors pink v. blue, boys v. girls, and how they have a reaction if a boy plays w. a Barbie?
Stopping by from SITS. Happy SITS day, enjoy!
My hat's off to you for home-schooling. I could not do it, because frankly I am just too crotchety. But I did investigate it - now the kids are in a Montessori school that works for our family. Off to read more of your posts!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 8:32 PM , Blogger Kristi said...

You know, it seems a lot easier to have a girl who wants more typical "boy" things than the opposite. My 3-year-old girl's favorite color is blue and she loves Thomas the Train toys and would rather do a puzzle than play baby dolls. Every little person is unique!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 8:36 PM , Blogger Gina said...

That bugs me too! MOST of the time, my boys want whatever the "boy" toy is: superheroes, cars, monsters, robots. But when Littlest Pet Shop was the girl toy, they both wanted "kitties" and there was no persuading them otherwise!

 
At April 4, 2011 at 8:39 PM , Blogger April said...

Love it! It's awesome you let them like whatever they want instead of letting society define them. It's not morally wrong for a boy to like pink! or littlest petshop :-) Man, I wish I had your son's confidence!

 
At June 1, 2011 at 10:00 AM , Blogger Kim said...

My three year old plays with dolls and loves Dora. We went to pick out a backpack and he wanted a pink Dora one. I'm ashamed to say I tried to deter him. But that was the only time - I was worrying that the kids might make fun of him at school when he showed up with a pink Dora backpack. We encourage the doll play (in fact I love seeing him play so nurturingly - not sure it that's a word. I only recently noticed they ask that question at McDonald's. You are right - it's odd and unnecessary. Another great post Adrienne!

 
At September 3, 2011 at 9:33 AM , Blogger Pam said...

Loved your post and your little guy is the greatest. I happened across your blog in the directory at SITS (I have a new blog and was looking to connect with other homeschoolers.) My son, now 21, often wanted the "girl" toy too, especially when it was the little Barbie or other little doll type toy. He grew to be a kind, sensitive, very manly guy who will make a fine husband. Homeschooling is such a great fit---no need to feel pressure from a narrow minded world about such things.

 
At March 28, 2012 at 7:58 PM , OpenID jesterqueen said...

Have you seen the petition to get McD's to just ask which toy you want instead of asking 'girl' or 'boy'? I have one of each. They invariably both want the same thing. I'm sick of getting funny looks when I say 'two boys' or 'two girls'.

 

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