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Wednesday, March 23, 2011

Just come right and say it!

Do you ever get the feeling people are judging you and talking about you behind your back?

Just even typing that statement makes me seem paranoid. But, sometimes you just know. You can tell by the "elephant in the room". The air is cold, and it's just plain awkward.

I wish people would just come right and say what they have already said behind your back. It would make everyone else a whole lot more comfortable. I could have the chance to retort (if I even wanted to), and everyone else could relax a little! Even the person who's placing judgment could use a little less energy.

It must be exhausting to keep up with what you've said, and who you've said it to.

I can't do anything about it. If I were to confront these people, my allegations would simply be denied, and I would be confirmed the "problem" source in the relationship. I just try not to care, and try not to think about it.

I have honestly prayed that God would simply release the thoughts from my mind all together. If there is something He thinks I need to know, then He'll reveal it. If not, I will have to get over it. I won't waste any more time thinking about it.

I don't care what people think about me OR what they say. I just wish they would have the guts to say it to my face.

What people think or say about me doesn't make those things true. Most of the time people pass judgment without even having all of the information. Their opinions are based soley on assumptions.

I've realized how I have judged others in the past for things I really didn't have all the information on, OR better yet, things that are none of my business. I guess the best way to drive this lesson home in my heart is to go through it myself from the other side.

Linking up this venting session with Shell at Things I Can't Say. It's the best free therapy out there! :)



At March 23, 2011 at 1:44 PM , Blogger Kay said...

I feel this way all the time when I am around my family, outside of my husband and daughter. I've gone through countless sleepless hours going over this in my head. It's comforting to know there are others that feel this too!:)

At March 23, 2011 at 2:36 PM , Blogger Impulsive Addict said...

It sounds like you need to find better friends. A TRUE friend shouldn't judge or talk about you behind your back.

I'm sorry that you feel like they are judging you. Maybe they just need to grow up a little bit. This isn't high school anymore!

At March 23, 2011 at 4:00 PM , Blogger Katertot said...

My sisters and I tend to be very catty with each other. I can only imagine the grumblings behind my back.

I agree - PYHO is great therapy! :)

At March 23, 2011 at 4:11 PM , Blogger Braley Mama said...

this is so hurtful, and often i don't think people understand how badly words can hurt!
Praying for God to use these people to teach you want you need from the situation and convict those who are rattling their mouths!

At March 23, 2011 at 4:42 PM , Blogger Julie said...

Oh I feel the same way. Sometimes I wish people would tell me what they think so I could just turn around and do it to them. I know, that sounds mean but seriously, might as well tell me.

At March 23, 2011 at 5:41 PM , Blogger Shell said...

Oh, things like this drive me crazy- it would be so much simpler if people would just confront us instead!

At March 23, 2011 at 7:45 PM , Blogger kelly said...

Something my husband told me long ago has always stuck with me when my thinking gets off track:

"If you know in your heart that you are a good person and your intentions are honorable and pleasing to the Lord, then nothing else matters".

There will always be others that will have issues with us. How we handle it is the true test.

And my pastor always says "Assume good will".

Blessings to you!

At March 23, 2011 at 8:46 PM , Blogger Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

I wish people just wouldn't talk about each other. I'd like to think I want people tell me to my face, but I'd probably cry... I tend to avoid confrontation!

At March 24, 2011 at 10:19 AM , Blogger Erin said...

Yikes! I hope everything works out for the best and that God gives you the grace to ignore and move on.

At March 24, 2011 at 11:04 AM , Blogger Di said...

I have certain people in my life who do this too. I've just severely limited my contact with them and it helps oh so much.

Here's to hoping you can get the air cleared!

At March 24, 2011 at 11:38 AM , Blogger Sara said...

I struggle so much with this- I tend to be pretty judgemental, BUT I hate, hate, HATE it when others judge me... I know, I know.

This was a good reminder that maybe if I stop judging, others will stop with me too....

But it is an awful feeling, and I'm sorry you're facing it :-(

At March 24, 2011 at 4:12 PM , Blogger Colleen said...

Oh goodness, this very thing has been on my mind too lately! I even wrote a post about gossip as well a couple days ago.

I am very sorry you are having to deal with this though, it can be very trying. I pray God does give you peace of mind in this.


At March 24, 2011 at 7:10 PM , Blogger Adrienne said...

I agree completely...People should just let it all out and get it in the open sometimes it would cure many problems around us ... Prayers for you my friend

At March 27, 2011 at 7:07 PM , Blogger Jessica said...

I've realized lately that as much as I try to please people (even though I apparently suck at it) others are always going to talk crap no matter what. If they have ugliness inside nothing I can do will change that.

Jesus was perfect but that didn't stop false reports and gossip from floating around him.

My sister shared a quote of facebook the other day that I really liked and you might too.

"The circumstances we face each day reveal whom we really are, as well as shape who we become. If there is no anger inside of us, no circumstance can bring it out of us. If there is no bitterness inside, no amount of injustice can stir it. If there is no lust inside, no amount of flirtation can arouse it. If there is no dishonesty inside, even the opportunity to cheat will not prompt it." -Mark Finley


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