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Tuesday, April 19, 2011

The Love Dare-Day 1 million

Ok, so it's only day 22. It just feels like I took on this do-it-everyday-challenge a million years ago, but I'm moving slow. That's just how I roll with something like this. Remember when I told you I procrastinate last week? Well, I've never EVER been good at daily devotionals or readings. I love a great Bible study and do well with those, but for some reason I struggle with something that has to be done every day. So I knew from the start of this Love Dare I would never finish it in the 40 days the book tells me to.

I read Day 22 this morning.

Before I go on. I'm going to be honest with you. I have not picked up the book in weeks. Other things have taken my time, and it's just been on the back burner. I am trying everyday to apply what I believe God is trying to teach me as a wife, not only from this book, but other sources too. But reading (anything) has fallen off the radar.

However, over the weekend I did something that I know I could only have been inspired to do by my Love Journey with God thus far...

God is good, girls! He can change you!

Sistas! On Saturday, I mowed the lawn! Not only did I mow the yard, but it looks good!

My husband has been working overtime to get our new house ready. We're painting and putting down new carpet in the bedrooms. It doesn't seem like a lot, but to save money, he's doing all the work himself. On top all of the work at the new house, his job, the loss of his grandma last week, and a major exam he has coming up today life is really stressing him out!

Right now, it feels like we have two houses to tend to, and it's beyond hectic. I know he feels most of the pressure is on him.

My actions have not been supportive in the last week. I'm embarassed by my impatience and lack of compassion. I know I've put added stress on him to get everything done.

I wanted to ask God for a "do-over" card, but since those do not exist, I needed to find something I could do to show him I was not only sorry, but something that showed him we were a team and he wasn't alone in all of this
I told a dear IRL friend that all I had left was "doing it God's way."

So, after a long week, painting the new house on Saturday, and coming home to expect to have to mow our yard here, he was surprised to find it already done!

He was in disbelief that little 'ole me mowed the lawn! Something I have NEVER done!

Seriously. Mowing the yard was awful! It was the exact opposite of what I wanted to be doing. I really had to fight my flesh to do it God's way. But, every minute I stayed out there, God filled me up with some super power wife strength to get it done. after a while, it was kind of therapuetic. I even delagated! LOL I had my BIL come over and edge and weed eat. Then later he had to come back to help start the blower. Pathethic, I know. But that damn thing would not start!

When my man got home and I saw the look on his face, it was all worth it. It really blessed him.

Love is choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knew-jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost interest in receiveing it. Say to them today in words (or actions in my case) similar to these, "I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don't love me in return."


To read more about why I started reading this book, and what God has been doing in my life click on the label The Love Dare at the bottom of this post. To read more on our spiritual mismatch check out the label Unequally Yoked Marriage.

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At April 19, 2011 at 11:10 AM , Anonymous Yolanda (Blaggie Plaggie: Babblings of a Mommy Doctor) said...

I did the Love Dare while our 1st was just 3 months old. It was good timing. God does do amazing things in marriages, sustaining and giving hope. I am so grateful for it, especially as we continue to wrestle with the challenges of loving each other and loving our kids.

At April 19, 2011 at 4:41 PM , Blogger Stephanie Faris said...

Is it weird that I LOVE mowing the lawn? There's something so liberating about chopping grass down until it's neat and short! Maybe I need that book...I obviously have issues!

At April 19, 2011 at 8:10 PM , Blogger Shell said...

It's so funny how often you and I are on the same page! :)

At April 20, 2011 at 12:50 AM , OpenID bluecottonmemory said...

I so agree - love is a choice. You are amazing and so strong. What a great wife you are!

At April 20, 2011 at 10:00 PM , Anonymous tammy said...

{Stopping by from SITS} This is a great lesson: love is a choice! I believe it totally and it's great to see you're choosing right :)


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