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Tuesday, January 31, 2012

When date night is a dud...

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Well, girls. We did it. Hubs and I managed to go on a date last Thursday night.

I've been thinking that I really need to make an effort here. I decided that if we were going to go out to eat it wasn't going to be because hubs went behind my back and surprised me with some romantic evening I knew nothing about. Yeah, right. 

I resolved to make an effort in this department. By the term "make an effort", I mean do everything humanly possible to eat in public with my husband and WITHOUT children. 

So, I called my sister. She said yes. I called hubs. He said, "If you want to, I guess? Yeah."

His excitement is enough to make me fall in love all over again. 

I told the kids they would be going to their aunt's to play.

Oldest: Does she have wi-fi?
Youngest: How long will you be gone? insert crying

Oh, C'mon kid. mommy needs a break. 

But, I managed to get them to my sisters without any huge set backs. 

I decided to bring them to her early before hubs got home from work. I figured it would make the whole drop-off thing easier if it was done before he got home, and I thought it would easier to take the kids while it was still light out thinking my youngest would be less anxious about mommy leaving him. 

Can you say separation anxiety?

So, I did all of that. Arranged the date, arranged the sitter, showered and even shaved my legs!

I got cute in jeans and a nice top. Add heels. Ok. This is good.

Dropped the kids off, and made sure hubs could shower and have a beer and relax before we went to dinner. 

Now, I'm not gonna lie. My expectations were high. Obviously, with all that work I put in. 

So, off to dinner we went. 

Enter romantic car conversation. 

Hubs: Where do you want eat? (yawn)

Me: I don't know? Wherever. 

Hubs: Well, you tell me. 

Me: Honey, really. You pick. 

Oh, man. He's really sweeping me off my feet.  

And dinner was nice. The food was great. We enjoyed getting out, but have you ever gone through the trouble to set up date night, and then it's sort of a dud of an evening?

Nothing bad happened. We had a nice time. But, no sex fireworks. Ya know?

I think my expectations were so high, I was destined to be disappointed. 

Sigh....

We're an old married couple. 

The moral of this story?

We need to go on dates more often!

What do you do to make sure you and your sweetie get time together?
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I recently discovered Courtney over at Women Living Well. If you haven't read her, she's a must! 
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20 Comments:

At January 31, 2012 at 8:47 AM , Blogger Di said...

At least you made the effort to go on a date. I still need to get around to that with Hubby. Jellybean has turned into clingy boy though so its hard!

 
At January 31, 2012 at 8:49 AM , Blogger Dolli-Mama said...

Oh, I HATE it when this happens to me, but it so frequently does. I also hate when we decide on a date night together, but when we finally leave the house we have no plans or ideas of where to go. If I'm going to put in the work and fork over the cash, I want the night to be awesome, not average.

 
At January 31, 2012 at 9:14 AM , Blogger Karen Greenberg said...

This sounds like every date my husband and I had when the kids were younger. Within an hour he would be mentioning how we weren't doing anything differently than when we had the kids, and we would wind up at home watching TV.

For some reason we are enjoying our dates much more now that the girls are old enough that we both need some time away from the attitudes. This pre-teen thing definitely requires date nights!

I hope your next one is better.

 
At January 31, 2012 at 10:03 AM , Blogger Lisa said...

We have date night once a month. We plan it ahead of time so we really get to look forward to it. :)

 
At January 31, 2012 at 10:05 AM , Blogger Katie said...

I'm sorry your date night wasn't as exciting as you thought it would be. I hate when expectations are really high and then things don't go as you wanted. But at least you got to have a date night! That is a definite plus!

 
At January 31, 2012 at 11:22 AM , Blogger Tiffany said...

I haven't had a date night in months with my husband, let alone a quiet dinner at home without kids interrupting. I resolved that even without date night, I need to reconnect with my husband and our marriage. I don't know if you read The Literal Mom, but she had a guest poster yesterday that wrote a great article about marriage. You might like it, it might just turn around your next date night. :)
http://www.literalmom.com/literal-mom/2012/01/expert-advice-on-long-term-marital-bliss.html

Let me know! :)

 
At January 31, 2012 at 2:18 PM , Blogger MiMi said...

Yep, you need more dates! ALthough when you don't have that many you'd think he'd be more excited! But men are weird, so who knows.

 
At January 31, 2012 at 4:24 PM , Blogger Melissa Maloney said...

My love and I have decided that we will have date night at least once a month...we decided this last month after a date night. It's Jan 31st and we haven't had a date this month. LOL

 
At January 31, 2012 at 6:36 PM , Blogger Shell said...

We've had dates like this. Where we barely even talk b/c we're so tired. But, just being able to enjoy the quiet together and eat w/o interruption is still pretty awesome.

 
At January 31, 2012 at 9:45 PM , Anonymous My Inner Chick said...

--When we go on a date, we usually talk about the kids...which sort of defeats the whole idea of a date!!!

Ya know?

xx Good Post!

 
At January 31, 2012 at 9:54 PM , Blogger Dumb Mom said...

I know hat you mean. We've had a couple of those before. Or even worse, we end up getting into a disagreement. And then it's like the worst night EVER because I'm all broody and annoyed and he's all silent and um, silent. It's only happened like that once but man did I wish I'd stayed home!

 
At January 31, 2012 at 10:21 PM , Blogger Julie said...

haha, we've only been married since July and I feel like an old married couple at times. Keep up the work with date nights, they are awesome!

 
At February 1, 2012 at 9:51 AM , Blogger By Word of Mouth Musings said...

How about next time, keep it simple ... drop the kids, pick up food, light some candles at home and just relax xxx
But hey, you made an effort, a BIG A for you :)

 
At February 1, 2012 at 10:08 AM , Blogger LisaAnn said...

Hey girlfriend- you have suddenly dissapeared on facebook- you ok?

 
At February 1, 2012 at 11:29 AM , Blogger Our Side of the Mountain said...

Tag! I tagged you for Randomness 11 on my latest blog spot! Something fun to do if you're interested.

 
At February 1, 2012 at 9:32 PM , Anonymous Amy@Make Me A Mary said...

OH my gosh, this is hilarious. So glad I found you!!! Thank you for stopping by my blog earlier. You are such an encouragement to me:)

 
At February 1, 2012 at 10:10 PM , Blogger Lisa -The Domestic Life Stylist said...

Adrianne, you are hilarious. We had a date night one month ago because it was hubby's birthday. Trying to make it more consistent.

 
At February 1, 2012 at 10:45 PM , Blogger Carolyn said...

Funny! We are also trying to go on more date nights, and I'm trying to put effort into them. Effort = getting dressed up and some make-up!
We try not to chat about the girls, but we do.

 
At February 2, 2012 at 2:00 PM , Blogger The Preppy Girl in Pink said...

The no "fireworks" happens to us all the time on date night. I think we get ourselves too worked up and then we just aren't feelin' it. The date nights where we have enough time to have dinner and a movie are enough to relax the both of us and let things fall into place.
Btw, I giggled at everyone of your "thoughts" in between the story of events. Too funny!

 
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