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Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Sometimes we get it right.

We're so hard on ourselves as parents. 

We all have laundry lists of every mistake we've ever made and wish lists of the things we wish we could change. 

What about the times we get it right?

Because the truth is, we do get it right-a lot! We just don't give ourselves the credit. 

Yesterday, I had a momzilla moment. We had finished our schoolwork, and all I wanted to do was go for a run. I have been feeling pretty crappy and my exercise routine has been less than. That tends to get me down mentally and physically. I got my running clothes on, but one thing lead to another in the mom department, and my workout window passed me by. ARGH!

I ended up acting like a brat, taking my frustrations out on the boys, and ruining a perfectly good day with a bad attitude. Sigh...

What usually happens?

I sink into a mode of defeat in my post momzilla state and think about how I'm a terrible mother, my kids will grow up to be serial killers, and hate me forever. 

But, I choose to snap out of it and make a better evening than I had afternoon. I cooked a nice dinner with the help of my little chef, and we all sat down together as family. We laughed, joked, and had a wonderful meal followed by a family show. We love to watch Once Upon a Time together!

My husband and my children were blessed by my efforts. Instead of letting a bad moment set the tone for the whole evening? I got it right!

After I read my little guy a story and he was sleeping sound next me, I realized my momzilla moment was only a fraction of the day. 20 minutes. Tops! What about the rest of the day when I got it right? 

When we focus on our negative qualities more than our positive, we're teaching out kids to do the same thing. I hope and pray they don't focus on my momzilla moments like I do! 

Ladies, sometimes we get it right!! Give yourself some credit today. Celebrate your strengths as mothers!

When's the last time you got it right? 

Leave a comment and tell us something you like about yourself as a mommy! Go ahead do it! 

I do not look with disdain upon my weaknesses. 
I see them as opportunities for God to display His powerful strength and grace through me. (Corinthians 2 12:10)


At March 20, 2012 at 8:15 AM , Blogger Karen Greenberg said...

You have a great attitude and make a wonderful point! My girls were impressed with both my husband and I when my youngest dropped their shared cell phone and shattered it. It was a complete accident, but she broke down thinking we were going to be upset. We did talk to her about being more careful, but then we went to the T-Mobile store and got them a replacement phone. We even sprung for the slightly more expensive one that has a pull-out keyboard. For one night, at least, Mom and Dad were "totally cool!" Accidents happen. I need to remember that more often, but you are right that I CAN be proud of all the moments that go right.

At March 20, 2012 at 10:33 AM , Blogger Missy | Literal Mom said...

Totally awesome reminder. It's so easy to get caught up in the 10 bad minutes of a day and forget about all of your successes. I'm glad you were able to re-focus where you needed to! Good for you, Adrienne!

At March 20, 2012 at 10:42 AM , Blogger Tiffany said...

Good point! This is an area I struggle with also, letting one bad thing ruin my day and making every one elses day crap too.
I'm a fanatic about cleaning and after I've vacuumed and mopped the kitchen floor, I intend to keep it that way for at least one day. Sadly, this is a pipe dream because one of the kids usually messes it up. I've learned to let it go, it's not worth shattering some one's fun. :)

At March 20, 2012 at 10:43 AM , Blogger Our Side of the Mountain said...

Oh, that's me! I seem to FOCUS on this difficult, challenging, less-than-perfect times, but they're only a SMALL fraction of the BIG picture. So positives for today? I used a calm, QUIET tone with my youngest as he attempted to get through the same readers we've been practicing for 2 weeks. And guess what? He finally did a good job! :D I think OUR attitudes as Moms influence are KID'S attitudes SO much!

At March 20, 2012 at 11:17 AM , Blogger Cindi said...

Great post! There are many days I feel I get more wrong than right. Especially with teenagers. (LoL) Challenging myself to pray before react and sometimes it really helps. :)

At March 20, 2012 at 11:35 AM , Blogger MiMi said...

Hmmm...I make it a point to not always say NO.
Sometimes, even though I don't want to and even though it's not the BEST idea...I say yes because I don't always wanna say no.

At March 20, 2012 at 12:19 PM , Blogger Not a Perfect Mom said...

love this...
and it's amazing how 20 minutes can really set the tone for the day if we don't make an effort and turn it around...
After school yesterday we said heck to our routine and went swimming, chores, homework, all that waited while we had fun as a family...

At March 20, 2012 at 2:54 PM , Blogger Lisa said...

I took the kids to the zoo Sunday, and PJ is still talking about it. Every so often, out of no where, he'll go "Mom, I had fun at the zoo." Makes my day. :)

At March 20, 2012 at 6:22 PM , OpenID pmlevitt said...

What a thoughtful honest post. I've certainly been there. It's hard when plans get derailed, especially when it's difficult as a mom to carve out time to take care of our needs. Though I try to adapt, sometimes I end up frustrated and resentful, and as you described, the guilt follows. Sometimes a fresh start with a shift in focus can change the landscape. Great points. I love the Bible quote you shared; what a great verse for reflection.

At March 20, 2012 at 7:16 PM , Blogger Shell said...

I love this. I tend to focus on my screw ups instead of what I do right.

I am awesome at: telling my boys I love them. Multiple times a day, every day.

At March 20, 2012 at 11:45 PM , Blogger Ashlie said...

I love that you wrote this. I am an optimist when it comes to everything but me - then I just want to fix everything! Your challenge to think of what we do RIGHT as was harder than I thought, which means I need to rearrange my thinking. I know He offers way more grace than I deserve, but I need to receive it...thanks for the reminder.

We had a picnic outside today, with my two little girls - ages 1 and 2. They LOVED it. :)

By the way, we love to watch Once Upon a Time, too!! :)

Have a blessed day!

At March 21, 2012 at 6:46 AM , Blogger Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

An important message, because most of us get it right far more often then we get it wrong. Like you said, we just don't give ourselves credit for the everyday!

At March 21, 2012 at 11:03 AM , Blogger Barbara said...

Such a great post, I think sometimes we are our worst critics.

At March 21, 2012 at 8:01 PM , Blogger EmbraceSpectrum said...

I feel like I get it wrong a lot...very self-critical. I do get it right every now and then, though.

At March 22, 2012 at 3:07 PM , Blogger JDaniel4's Mom said...

I love that you changed the course of your day and didn't stay in a funk.

I am thankful when I can catch myself mid-sentence and turn angry words in to joyful ones.

At March 28, 2012 at 8:07 PM , OpenID jesterqueen said...

Oh my heart. Your son has clearly grown up with a wonderful father. Screw the piece of paper.


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